After I got back from my 10-Day Vipassana meditation; I had troubles reintegrating back into society. For 10 days straight the only task I did was brushing my teeth; and by the end of to 10 days I had a brand new pair of dentures.
After a long, life-changing, and successful 10 days. I got thrown back into the busyness of life. And I have to say it was strange, weird, and uncomfortable all at the same time. I was back in contact with: technology, people, noise; cars, the internet, exercising; reading, and everything in-between.
In addition to coming back to life (figuratively speaking), I felt like a brand new person. I now had the time to reflect, become aware of my environment; how I was managed my time, my friends; family, and of course my habits.
Even though I was able to participate in a life changing process, I was stuck with one big problem – a lack of direction. I didn’t know if what I thought I wanted was really what I wanted. I didn’t have a clear idea of what I was doing, and if what I was doing actually gave me any joy..
I realized that in order to do what you love, you must have a clear path. Not having one meant it was time for me to make a change. I focused on mentally resetting, and redefining my personal values so I could establish a meaningful path for myself that I could ultimately share with others.
This was a very difficult process, but after a long talk with a wise friend of mine we decided that the best route was to take it slow, and not rush back into my old habits. So instead I started to relax, manage, and redefine my values so I could get a more concrete picture of what I wanted to do with my writing, my life, and myself as a person.
How I Made My Decisions And Redefined My Personal Values
- When I first started I rushed immediately, and it only backfired. Don’t rush into making your decisions. They are important, so take your time with them, and discover what matters to you.
- This post will describe, and outline the process that I used to relax, and manage my decisions – if you want to see the whole post –> click here.
- In addition, I also used a journal to write down my ideas, values, and beliefs that I held to be true for myself.
- Afterwards, I wrote down the most important question – “why” ; which questioned each idea, value, and belief that I had. This lead me to find a clear reasoning for my why.
- And lastly, I went over my own system of values, ideas and beliefs with close friends so I could also receive external input, and hear their ideas and opinions.
After a few weeks of self-reflection, inquiry, reading; writing, redefining myself, and meditation I came to my conclusion.
Redefining My System
1. Linking My Own Values To Selfhabit
After defining my own values, and what I care about I now have a clear image of what I want to write about; and I’m interlinking my values to what Selfhabit is about. I have come up with this: “Selfhabit is about sharing practical ideas and proven methods for mastering your habits, increasing your productivity, and optimizing your health and happiness.”
Even though it’s a tagline, this is the structure of what I want Selfhabit to be about. It encompasses the mission of this website which is: “Simplify your lifestyle”
By having a clear idea of what this website is about, I will be able to follow the path I’ve laid out for myself, and stay on track (I know that I will fall, but I’ll get back up again :). This will include topics, and ideas about practical self-growth so it can be shared for the betterment of others.
Takeaway: If you know yourself, and what you care about, then apply those values to your work. Echo what you care about, and let it resonate into your personal goals, projects; habits, and/or dreams.
2. Simplifying Selfhabit For You
I love what I do, and that allows me to: learn, teach, read, and write about simplifying lifestyles (amongst practical growth). I don’t like being a hypocrite, and saying one thing, and then going to do another. So to stick with my motto (simplifying) – I must apply the method of simplicity to Selfhabit.
Why? I want this to be the simplest way for you to digest information, apply it, and have a reading experience you can enjoy. I don’t want to add confusion to your life.
My goal is to make the reading experience simple (easy to read), clutter-free, and pleasurable. **(This website started ad-free, and will remain so until forever. Seriously, who actually likes ads?)
Takeaway: Albert Einstein said it best: “Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.” If you’re willing to put the time in – everything in your life can be made simpler, easier and more enjoyable.
3. Creating A Wonderful Community Where Knowledge Is Shared And Free
I want Selfhabit to be a community of like minded people where: wisdom, scientific studies, methods; tips, and practical techniques can be shared for free. I plan to open up guest-posting, and allow others to share their life experiences, and practical knowledge on: habits, lifestyles, simplifying; happiness, health, and personal growth (and many more topics).
Takeaway: The work you do is more enjoyable, and rewarding when shared with others.
4. What’s In Store For The Future
- Changing, and updating the pages on Selfhabit to further define my values, and show what I care about.
- Removing “Copyright” , and letting anyone share my posts/ideas because I believe personal growth shouldn’t be copyright.
- Adding guest posting to create a larger community of like-minded people; and sharing ideas for the growth of others.
- Working on finishing my mini-book on: how to redefine your lifestyle, and sharing it for free.
- My magic ball doesn’t let me see that far into the future, but there will be much more to come – I promise.
This mental reset has allowed me to reconnect with myself, and layout a path in front of me. During this time, I have created a system of values, and goals that I will strive to work towards.
This system will consist of both defined, and non-defined goals; which is to say that I won’t stress over deadlines, or goals; or finishing this or that, but I will focus on the process of doing what I enjoy; and most importantly doing what works best for me.
I look forward to our journey together.
– Dragos Bernat