By: Dragos Bernat
Introduction: This will be a series of daily meditations. A total of 365 meditations, one for each day. Each meditation is about simplifying and understanding our lives.
We all carry a basket around with us. Constant information, thoughts, emotions, interactions and reactions go into this basket. With time our basket begins to become heavy, it starts to overflow. We find we have too much, and we carried it for too long. We don’t know what to do with it and we bring it around with us. This participation to continue filling our basket overwhelms us. When we get overwhelmed, we end up affecting our ability to interact with the world.
One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up to him and began insulting him.
“You have no right to be teaching others!!!” he shouted.
“You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!!”
Buddha was not upset by these insults. He just smiled. The man insulted him again and again but the only reaction he could get back from the Buddha was a
smile and silence. Finally he stomped his feet and left cursing.
The disciples were feeling angry and one of the them couldn’t keep quiet and asked the Buddha, “Why didn’t you reply to the rude man?”
The Buddha replied, “If someone offers you a gift, and you refuse to accept it, to whom does the gift belong?”
“Of course to the person who brought the gift,” replied the disciple. “That is correct,” smiled the Buddha.
The one person who got angry was the young man. He was the one who started it. And in the end it was he who ended up angry. It was because he decided to participate.
There’s times when we have already participated due to friends, family, projects, that we are involved with. And we end up overwhelmed with ourselves because we feel a need to start, stop or continue our participation.
Our basket is the power we hold. At the end of the day we are the ones who have to carry our basket. The basket is a symbol for our participation. We have the power to participate, or not participate. We have to power to share our basket, or choose to not share our basket.
As the Buddha has shown, when he didn’t participate in the anger of the young man, the only person who left angry was the young man.
Most of the time when we become overwhelmed, it is because we choose to participate in another’s willingness to become overwhelmed.
Ask yourself, do I need to participate myself in this situation? Do I need to feel overwhelmed? Ask yourself, and decide whether to participate or not to.
The power to not participate is always there.
And It’s astonishing what not participating can solve.
I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth diminishing your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear. ~Steve Maraboli